Keeping Up – Week 10 (2 of 2)

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Something your parents might not have told you about life is that you have to keep up. They may have told you to be responsible. They may have told you to clean your bedroom. They may have told you to do your homework. But how many of us grew up in households where the motto was, “Do it now?”

THE PAINT INCIDENT

My parents took their time getting things done. Possibly because they had their hands full with my brother Gary’s schizophrenia. I remember one day Gary, untreated at that point, got a can of red paint and painted something across my parent’s bedroom door. And the painted words stayed sprawled across my parent’s door a very long time. Maybe even my whole childhood. I got the message that you left things unfinished or damaged; that you put doing unpleasant things off, even if it made things more unpleasant in the long run. Like losing weight, or fixing a screen, or getting help.

Granted, you may have been raised in a strict environment where you felt the pressure of having to perform up to standards, but did you learn the value of taking immediate action on your own goals? Of not postponing your dreams? Of not putting off the hard stuff?

ADRENALINE NO MORE

I remember hearing the phrase, “A stitch in time saves nine”,  but I don’t remember living by it. I let myself slack. That’s not to say I was not ambitious, but ambition without discipline is like a great athlete without a good pair of shoes and a game to play.  I used to wait until the adreneline rush of a last minute deadline to get going. I fooled myself by thinking I worked best under pressure, when I really lacked the discipline to get a head start. Or else I sabotauged myself by having so many irons in the fire that I couldn’t keep up with the most important things in my life, like prayer, meditation and giving myself better adult supervision.

There’s a mastermind group I am in with two close friends that I joined a few years ago, and my MM buddies were getting pretty frustrated with me committing to so many things that I didn’t follow through on. They tried hard to support me. And, boy were they mad and super jealous (almost like I cheated on them) when I told them I had joined MKMMA and explained how well it is working for me, as if they’d failed me. They didn’t. I just didn’t have all the tools, the level of support and information I needed. I do now, baby! And I still belong to my original MM where I get to show up with my s_ _ _ done each week!

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The Divine Masculine, Collage by Val Olson

 

Thrilled – Week 10 (1 of 2)

SOMETHING TO WAKE UP FOR

When I heard the Week 11 assignment to write a one sentence DMP I was thrilled. Especially after seeing Mark and Davene’s examples. Wow. I couldn’t wait to write it. I sat down and wrote the most delicious sounding, longest sentence I’ve ever written and fired it off to my guide, Nancy.

I am so happy about it I want to hug myself, jump up and down, tie bells on my toes and shout it from the rooftops!

“Before 2025, I’m a prolific artist, world traveler, owner of a million-dollar+business, and best-selling author of three books, living in FL and MN, who ignites an international movement of thousands of prospering creative women entrepreneurs who earn massive income from their talents and ideas and create an endless tidal wave of beauty, joy, wealth and awe across the planet which heals and transforms all in its wake.”

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Copyright ©, 2008 (2018), The Divine Feminine, Collage by Val Olson

All I can say is “Come on Subby, let’s do it now!”

 

Subby – Week 8 (2 of 2)

DEAR VAL, PLEASE HELP SUBBY

Unconsciously and apparently I have been telling Subby that I need to get sick in order to have time to myself, enough rest and relaxation and permission to be given to and taken care of by others. Subby kept me up late every night last week to make sure this happened.

On Thanksgiving evening I became sick. Chills. Fever. Cough. Nausea and Vomiting. This is not the self-care I had in mind when I wrote my DMP.

Dear Val, please help Subby by following your DMP to the letter. Note especially this sentence:

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Water Woman, collage by Val Olson

I luxuriate daily in my top 6 nurturing activities before Oct 2018. I am in bed by 9:30 pm. I am honest with myself, realistic about what I can do and I do it now.”

Thank you.

 

 

Law of Compensation – Week 8 (1 of 2)

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Where there is Life, there also is Death, Collage by Val Olson.

Wowie! Emerson is so beyond New Age cotton candy, the law of attraction and lollipops. Morality is knowing the difference between right and wrong and choosing the right. The Law of Compensation is always in operation. It candy coats nothing. It’s not about repeating affirmations, visualizing and having $1M show up in your mailbox. Because when the $1M shows up in your mailbox, you are going to have to give some of it away.  The Law of Compensation is righteousness itself. It’s Truth. And it reveals how we cannot win without losing, or lose without winning, or die without living or live without dying, or eat without eliminating, or eliminate without eating, or experience victory without defeat or defeat without victory. There’s no escaping duality in our world. There’s no escaping the Godhead. It is within the keyboard I’m using to type this blog post. Polarity. Polarity. Polarity. Know that it is the law of living.

The Best Raspberries – Week 7

I Greet this Day with Love in My Heart

 “Life without liberty is like a body without spirit.” ~ Khalil Gibran

Liberty is defined as,  “The power or scope to do as one pleases.” As someone who fled a domestic abuse situation seven years ago, who has caregiving responsibilities for two family members, a full-time job and a business, this used to seem like an impossible ideal. But with the support of the MKE program, new habits and masterminding, it is becoming a reality!

Recently by brother Gary asked for a ride to the food shelf. I checked in with myself, “Can I choose to say “Yes” and still be at liberty? I decided to take on the challenge. My brother has special needs and doesn’t drive. The ride to the food shelf was filled with sweet his sweet words about how helpful and generous I was to give him assistance.  I had the opportunity to affirm him as well. Gary is super witty, friendly, creative, and has many other great qualities, and I focused on them. I also couldn’t help focusing on how unkept and dirty my car was, both insided and out. It made me feel squirmish.

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Self-Care

I knew Gary was going to take about an hour, so, once I dropped him off, I took the opportunity to, “Do it now” and was purging feelings of distress by cleaning up the inside of my car. Then, the “I am fit & in vibrant good health” section of my DMP called to me and I noted that I could take a walk along the railroad tracks behind the building. As I was walking, I thought about how a dirty car isn’t fit for a queen (I’m the Queen of the Boheme according to my DMP). So being a do-it-know kind of person, I got on my iPhone and found a car wash just two minutes away. Back to my car then, whisk. Off I went, with a new awareness of, 1) how I can have liberty in the midst of “duty”, and, 2) how I want my envirionment, including my car, to reflect my DMP and thus my life.

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Getting my car washed and vacuumed was so much fun. I finished in time to return and meet Gary as he came out of the food shelf building. There he was with a cart full of organic produce and other beautiful food. It looked like a cornocopia. Gary’s face was beaming with happiness and contentment. As I helped him unload groceries into the trunk, he proudly handed me a carton of big juicy raspberries.

Driving home with bountiful nourishment and love for my brother gave me a great sense of gratitude and joy. With my PPN of Liberty, and the MKE program, and my own free will, I’m not in servitude to anything except my good habits. And they are mine!

And the raspberries? They turned about to be the very best raspberries I’ve ever tasted.

      

Monkey Mind – Week 6

Let’s Examine the Monkey Mind!

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Let’s start with the truth. I thought I had this positive thinking thing handled! But I really had no idea frickin’ idea just how many monkeys had taken up residence in my mind and turned it into a raucous jungle. Not until I started the 7 Day Mental Diet. And having walked toward the narrow gate, I’m not going to kid myself;  until I achieve a state of enlightenment, it’s always going to be the first day of this seven day diet. It seems to me that the mental diet is Napoleon Hill’s way of helping his readers stay vigilantly on the, “straight and narrow.”  It’s my understanding that heaven is more metaphorical than a place of perfect peace, beauty and harmony that we go to when we die. But this opionion I have no proof of.  But let me define one version of heaven as having control over our thoughts, and feeding Subby a heavenly diet, so we can experience some peace, harmony and joy right here, right now.

This week I realized that unless I ACTIVELY monitor my thinking AT ALL TIMES (except when I’m sleeping), while also setting my opinion aside (outside of my work in an advisory role, or if someone asks for it, which is rare, ha ha), my mind is going to veer toward the ever present  wide gate on the path of least resistance.

As my MKE guide, Nancy Ottinger would say, “It’s time to giddy up!”

“Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it. But small is the the and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find it.” ~ Matthew 7:13-14

 

Disney – Week 5

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Disney is known for creating magical experiences for theme park visitors and movie goers by giving us more than we expect. They do this by building a crescendo of “Wows”, each more amazing that then next. I take it as a new metaphor for my life, and also for what the MKE is opening up for me. Bye bye ego rule. Hello again Observer. Yes to the Magical Kingdom Subby is creating with my help.

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After one month of MKE webinars, practices and assignments, I am wowed. Not only by the program, which is providing a structure and community I didn’t even know I needed I’m also wowed when I think about all of the experiences that Mark and Davine accumulated, and the principles they assimilated, and the work it took to bring this to us. To me. In this very moment.

Most importantly, I’m wowed by myself.  I’m wowed by myself for jumping on my blog assignment after being on the Week 5 webinar for two hours and then the Q & A for another hour. I’m energized. I don’t need to eat yet, go to the bathroom, or do anything else except Do it Now! That said, I’m looking foward to a nice dinner. “Get the blog done first”. No question!

I’m wowed by my DMP, and I’m wowed by my guide, Nancy,  who brought me through the revisions, and sent me a Marco Polo while dancing to Cole Porter music. I’m wowed by those behind the scenes who read and helped make my DMP more concise and powerful. I’m wowed by the support that is summoned when I say, “Yes” to myself and “No” to others’ plans for me, and to old habits.  I’m wowed by what can happen in a month. And I’m wowed by synchronicity.

Mumsy and Liberty

One of my PPNs is Liberty. I’ve been living with my mother for the past few months as she is in need of some assistance. I recently stopped living with my partner of five years and also have a house in FL, but mom and some of my other close family members are here in Minneapolis. It  was natural for me to take this step. I might not sound liberating, but it is right now. Mumsy is 96 years old and inspires me every day.  She can be seen wearing a cute pair of red shoes, a red beret and a red cape, or doing balance exercises in the kitchen to Latin Music as she holds onto the back of a kitchen chair. She likes to watch television using captions. I don’t watch much TV. However, as I walk by her sitting area, or if I’m sitting next to her, a Liberty Insurance commercial comes on sometimes, and I see these words typed across the screen: Liberty. Liberty. Liberty. Liberty. Liberty. Apparently it’s a commercial jingle. I’m wowed by the synchronicity. The universe has interesting ways of communicating, and I’m noticing more of it.

Going Up even if I Don’t Go Down

I’ve noticed  also that my mood is UP, and that’s not typical when I’m leaning into a Minnesota winter. I hope to get to FL, but I said “Yes” to what is needed, and bought a green wool hat with a BIG pompom on it from Target, and I love it. While shopping there on Friday, I sneezed and someone said, “Bless You”, and since I’m practicing giving something to everyone I encounter,  we struck up a conversation about where the gestur of saying, “Bless you” when someone sneezes came from, and what I had learned is that it came from the fact that you can’t sneeze and breathe at the same time, so it is customary to offer up a prayer of protection. So she blessed me, and I gave her a story and a connection we don’t usually get with other shoppers. I felt UP when I told my mom that that it is a gift to be able to spend time with her and that I feel happy living here. I felt UP when I thanked my brother for the opportunity to give him a ride to work.

I thought I was living a pay-it-forward life, but I see I’ve only been paying forward a small fraction of what I’m capable of. It’s empowering to see my capacity to give grow while my own happiness increases. And I especially love that it’s not about grand gestures (though it can be), but that it’s about doing the work to achieve our heart’s desire.

Okay, now a word about this new exercise we have to not share opinions. I am going to so rise to this challenge. Maybe I’m going to write all of the opionions I have down for the first few days, just to get them out of my system. I found this quote by Don Miquel Ruiz:

“Just imagine becoming the way you used to be as a very young child, before you understood the meaning of any word, before opinions took over your mind. The real you is loving, joyful, and free. The real you is just like a flower, just like the wind, just like the ocean, just like the sun.

According to this quote, not having opinions will free me. That is LIBERTY! Liberty. Liberty. Liberty. Liberty.

 

I also found this quote from Tolkien, and I relate to it:

“I wish it need not have happened in my time,” said Frodo. “So do I,” said Gandalf, “and so do all who live to see such times. But that is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us.” 
― J.R.R. Tolkien, The Fellowship of the Ring

I get to decide what to do with the time that is given me, and I’m deciding to go for my definite major purpose, and to do it with gusto.

I’m grateful to everyone helping to make this possible and I’m especially grateful to myself for my willingness to learn, grow, adapt and develop the new habit of doing it now!

Being of Icelandic descent, among others, I decided to look up the translation for thank you and do it now.  Here they are. I’m going to ask Mumsy to help me pronounce the words!

hvað gerir þakka þér fyrir (thank you in Icelandic).

gerðu það núna (do it now in Icelandic).