Kindness Dissolves all Walls – Week 17

What would it be like to live in a world where kindness is the keynote? Or maybe we’re already living in this world and we just aren’t aware of the acts of kindness happening all around us all the time.

Last week hundreds of Master Key Experience students practiced observing and doing acts of kindness.  What I learned through this practice is that kindness is often gentle, simple and easy; it’s like a light breeze, a ray of sunshine, or a bubbling brook. Being kind doesn’t require a big effort or campaign.

It just takes a moment to be kind; to give someone a hug, open a door, acknowledge someone, give someone your seat on the bus, or get them a cup of coffee. You can of course be kind in more dramatic ways. But it’s the small acts of kindness that truly make this world a better, more loving, more flourishing place each day.  So if you’ve felt discouraged about our times, consider looking for the kindnesses all around you for a few days and your hope will be rekindled.

Just as we in this program are becoming better stewards of our thinking, we can also be good stewards of our actions. We can show ourselves kindness by monitoring our thoughts, practicing self-care, and taking the necessary steps toward our Definite Major Purpose. What could be kinder than a world where everyone has a Definite Major Purpose and a kind, honest and helpful support network?

You’ve probably seen or heard Aesop’s quote, “No act of kindness, however small, is wasted.” Well, I think even it undersells the power of  kindness, which is best demonstrated through small acts that are easy to pull off. All good things have energy, and all evil things have none. I think we can all agree that spreading kindness is a good thing; it’s catchy, it makes a difference to our quality of life. Each act of kindness ripples out and adds more love, gratitude, confidence, and well-being into the stream of life.

I’m going to turn Kindness Week into Kindness Month and see what happens inside myself and in my world. How about you? Will you notice kindnesses occuring at work, in stores, at the gym, in your own life?

There is a Tide – Week 16

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There is a Tide in the Affairs of < Men >

I’ve always loved Shakespeare, and he speaks to me in his words below about the journey we’re on in each of our DMP-related ventures; all us being moved along by the truths we’re discovering and putting into action.

I think it’s such great timing that this is the week we’re collectively noticing and spreading kindness. I feel connected to the collective Master Key Experience tribe this moment more than I ever have. Previous to today, I was aware of the 300 or so of us being on the same ship, but as we take on the awesome challenge of noticing kindness and doing kind things for the next week, I really feel our souls joined together in something BIG.

Here are Shakespeare’s words that capture my sense of what we as a group are doing in creating and riding a wave of kindness:

“There is a tide in the affairs of men (and women), Which taken at the flood, leads on to fortune; Omitted, all the voyage of their life Is bound in shallows and in miseries. On such a full sea we are now afloat; And we must take the current when it servces, Or lose our ventures.” ~ William Shakespeare

I’m really feeling joyous and so I’m bursting to make and share a list of the changes, large and small, that are happening in my life as a direct result of following this program faithfully, with the great support that has been offered by all.

Here’s my list of changes, and it’s just the tip of the iceburg.

Since MKE, I am:

Happier

I’m waking up happy, excited and focused and ready to get going, and I’m keeping this state steady through the day. I can’t wait to read MKE ‘stuff’ and sit, and then get on with my day.

More grounded in my spiritual practices

I’m meditating regularly and feeling closer to Spirit.

Putting self-care into action

I joined Massage Envy and I’m getting two massages a month (one of my nurturing activities in my DMP) and I love the masseuse who is very intutive, empathic and skilled.

Being kind to myself by increasing pleasurable experiences in my life

I’m actively listening to music again.

Increasing connections and intimacy with others

I’m more active socially and I’m forging deeper friendships with others by being more authentic and present.

More focused on family time and creating memories with them

I’m spending more time with my son, daughter-in-law and grandchildren.

I set up an art studio in my house, and I’m creating more art. In addition, my grandsons cant wait to visit so they can make art at Grandma Val’s.

More assertive

I able to say “No” more easily when I want to.

More honest

I’ve become more honest with myself and others, and therefore I’m getting more of my needs met.

Seeing and attracting more opportunties

I started a new job and I wouldn’t have taken it if it weren’t for the nudging of the great questions from my mastermind buddy, Paula, and another friend. I am seeing my job as a platform for accomplishing my DMP, instead of an impediment to it. This job will help me purchase a home in FL faster than relying solely on my business, which I now have time to work on more methodically.

More engaged in the present moment

I have increased “presence”.

Much less fearful / anxious

I have very little fear or anxiousness these days (Lesson 5, page 34, #32) (Those in possesion of our inheritance can) “…never again be timid, weak, vacilating or fearful.” and Lesson 5, page 35, #28, “…finding as much pleasure in the execution as in the satisfaction of attainment or achievement.”

THIS IS MY YEAR OF THE GORILLA

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Taking care of small things right away, and bigger things in small, steady chunks

One remarkable change you wouldn’t think would make such a difference is my new approach to doing dishes. I don’t have a dishwasher right now. Previous to MKE I was letting dishes from my meal “soak”. Now I’m doing them right away. It’s so empowering, like our daily service card. Subby doesn’t know the difference between me doing the dishes right away, or sitting down and getting my book edited, or my card deck made.

Magnetizing more ideas and opportunities

People are sharing great ideas with me related to my business (things they see me doing or being involved in).

Someone invited me to chat via LinkedIn. I discovered that he studied with Bob Proctor (Earl Nightingale’s business parter), and was in fact his number 1 salesman internationally and we spent 90 minutes talking about metaphysics.

The promises of working this program are coming into being; enlivening me and filling me with gratitude and ENTHUSIASM!

I’m really rooting for our collective tribe to get to 8000+ kindnesses ASAP. It seems at this moment nothing is more exciting!

Let’s go, team – think KINDNESS in every moment and our hearts will be exploding with love and gratitude by next Sunday.

 

The Path with a Heart – Week 15

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Copyright ©, 2018, The Path with a Heart, Collage by Val Olson,

THE WILD

I just finished watching Wild, with Reese Witherspoon and Laura Dern. I viewed it through the lens of the heroes’ journey, and also through the MKE lens, looking for evidence of a DMP, PMA, POA and MMA (purpose, mindset, plan and allies).

ORDINARY WORLD

Cheryl’s Ordinary World was filled with many trials and tribulations which naturally lent itself to the underworld of addiction, relationships with abusive men and scavenging for her food and clothing from dumpsters. From an MKE perspective, she had a lot of layers of cement covering the wild (authentic) aspects of  her such as insightfulness, purposefulness and self-directedness.

CALL TO ADVENTURE

I assume it was either after addiction treatment, or after leaving it prematurely? that she answered the Call of Adventure, which was walking the PCT. She left Minneapolis (my home town) and headed toward California. In a flashback scene, it was obvious the idea had been planted in her mind earlier when she saw a book with  a photo from the PCT on its cover. As the “voices” of home cooked meals and good company” called to her enticingly  (Ordinary Life) as she packed her backback. She was obviously motivated by anger at being where she was in life; at the status quo which wasn’t serving her. What an effort she made to wrestle the backpack onto her tiny frame from a sitting position. This was her commitment to her journey, no matter how arduous, the sure completion of it was represented in the steeling of her will at the beginning.

Her backback reminds me of the MKE program. It provides everything we need for the journey of life; fueled by our Definite Major Purpose (DMP). I viewed the subtext of this film as not giving up or giving in to self-destruction, and her PPNs being Liberty from all that had previously held her back, and also the desire for Health. While so many jagged memories of her interactions with others played out on her walk through the wild, each step fueled greater self-determination. If you’ve lost yourself to addiction, it makes sense that before any other purpose can come into clear view, you have to leave the chemicals (or other self-destructive habits) behind in order to find yourself. Once you find yourself, your DMP comes more easily into view.

As I watched Cheryl reading instructions for putting up her tent, I thought again about MKE and how each week we have instructions to prepare for the week and a lesson to follow. If we follow the instructions, we are putting up a tent for life that offers shelter for our soul and the keys to fulfilling our purpose.

I enjoyed the subliminal phrases woven into the movie, which reinforced the importance of having a PMA (postive mental attitude). For example, “If you believe, you can achieve”, and “Live dangerously” (take risks). I believe self-discovery is a bigger risk that going on a solo trip across the wilderness. The journey of self-discovery and victory over every inner and outer obstacle is the ultimate heroes’ journey.  There was even a moment in Wild when she had a “Gal in the Mirror” moment, seeing herself reflected in a window.  I believe she was seeing herself without the cement and that this helped her carry on. I was thrilled that Carlos Castaneda’s “Path with a Heart” got a cameo mention, too. When I came across it years ago it spoke to me, and continues to speak to me now. I’ve shared the poem *below.

ALLIES & ENEMIES

Along the way, Cheryl meets allies as well as enemies she defeats. Most of her allies are other hikers, friends and her ex, supporting her on her journey, in some cases with essentials, like fuel, food, clothing and safety. Some of the enemies she defeats, besides addiction, are the rattlesnake she side steps away from, the stream she submerges herself and holds herself steady in against the current, and a winter storm she pushes through.

I loved the moment when she found the strayed llama and meets the little boy who tells her, “I have some problems I’m not supposed to talk to anyone about”, and then sang the Red River Valley in an act of empathy.  This encounter with innocence, the song about loss, and the wisdom she was able to share with him as well, seems to have led to the moment of surrender followed by the (THE RESURRECTION) in the form of this profound monologue:

“What if I forgive myself?” What if I was sorry? If I could go back in time I wouldn’t do a single thing differently. What if I wanted to sleep with everyone of those men? What if everyone taught me something? What if all those things I did got me here? What if I was never redeemed? What I already was?”

In this moment, Cheryl realizes that there is nothing to be redeemed; and instead embraces the thought, “How wild it is to let it be.”

In the end she found her own way out of the woods and thanked the trail for everything it taught her (metaphorically thanking her life and everything and everyone in it up to that point.

In some ways this movie is about following a path you might not know you’re taking. She took the path with the DMP of finding herself, and in doing so she was able to achieve things such as remarrying, and having wo children and then we are left to imagine what other things she will tackle and achieve in her future. Because she Returned with the Elixir. And the elixir was the ability to choose, to take ownership of what had happened to her, and what she wanted to happen next. I think she will always keep her promises…

Here’s the poem:

“Anything is one of a million paths. Therefore you must always keep in mind that a path is only a path; if you feel you should not follow it, you must not stay with it under any conditions. To have such clarity you must lead a disciplined life. Only then will you know that any path is only a path and there is no affront, to oneself or to others, in dropping it if that is what your heart tells you to do. But your decision to keep on the path or to leave it must be free of fear or ambition. I warn you. Look at every path closely and deliberately. Try it as many times as you think necessary.

This question is one that only a very old (man) asks. Does this path have a heart? All paths are the same: they lead nowhere. They are paths going through the bush, or into the bush. In my own life I could say I have traversed long long paths, but I am not anywhere. Does this path have a heart? If it does, the path is good; if it doesn’t, it is of no use. Both paths lead nowhere; but one has a heart, the other doesn’t. One makes for a joyful journey; as long as you follow it, you are one with it. The other will make you curse your life. One makes you strong; the other weakens you.

Before you embark on any path ask the question: Does this path have a heart? If the answer is no, you will know it, and then you must choose another path. The trouble is nobody asks the question; and when a (man) finally realizes that he has taken a path without a heart, the path is ready to kill him. At that point very few men can stop to deliberate, and leave the path. A path without a heart is never enjoyable. You have to work hard even to take it. On the other hand, a path with heart is easy; it does not make you work at liking it.”

~ Carlos Castenada

I leave you with this question: Is your DMP, or path you are on, a path with a heart? If so, remember Cheryl, and how she overcame so much on her journey through the wilderness. If not, never give up discovering (or inventing) your reason for being on this planet.

Saying Yes to Self-Authority – Week 14

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Self-Identity, Self-Authority & Self-Responsibility

“Rock the Boat. Do Rock the Boat Baby. Tip the Boat. Do Tip the Boat Over.”

“The gorilla is quiety charismatic and a symbol of raising our heads and recognizing the nobility within us.”  ~ from Spirit Animal Totems

I just adopted the gorilla as my power animal.

I say YES to healthy adaptation and resilience. I say NO to over-accomodation, pleasing others at my own expense and postponing delivering on my soul’s greatest purpose for being on this planet.

I SAY “YES”:

  • To being myself fully and without any reservation.
  • To forthright expression of all of my emotions without fear of what others will think, or despite feeling afraid to speak out.
  • To telling the truth, even if it’s scary.
  • To always behaving in line with my values of creativity, contribution, freedom, recognition, awe, beauty, collaboration, adventure, learning and connection with others.
  • To always standing up for myself.
  • To knowing what I want and going for it with gusto.
  • To not letting someone else talk me out of any of my well thought out decisions or  perceptions.
  • To putting my needs and wants first.
  • To adapting to others needs and wants, only if I’m not sacrificing my own.
  • To not postponing my life in any way, including the postponement of goals, dreams, tasks, fun or responsibilities.
  • To securing my success, even if someone else may be threatened by it.
  • Genuineness, authenticity and living my truth moment-by-moment.
  • To taking care of myself by eating nutritiously, sleeping 7.5 hours a day, exercising and making self-care and my own projects my first priority.

I never give my thoughts, emotions, creativity, sponteneity, authenticity or capacity for intimacy to keep others around, get their approval, or not make waves.”

I do it now!

I always keep my promises!

Sincerely,

Valerie J. Olson

“This above all: to thine own self be true, And it must follow, as the night the day, Thou canst not then be false to any ( person) man.” Polonius (In Hamlet, by William Shakespeare)

I am Whole, Perfect, Strong, Powerful, Loving, Harmonious and Happy – Week 13

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Credit, Photo by Dawn Vogel, Luminous Concepts Productions

I AM WHOLE. I have nothing lacking within me or in my environment that I need, or couldn’t get if I wanted to. I have an active mind, creative thoughts, brilliant ideas, the ability to reason, senses to connect with the physical world in all it’s beauty and terror, intuition to guide me, emotions to connect to myself and with others. I was born with ten fingers and ten toes. I am pain free. I look at the Gal in the Glass and I am good with her. I have everything I need. I AM WHOLE.

I AM PERFECT. Every moment I am exactly where God would have me be. I’m in the right place and the right time doing the right thing. I do my best and my best is perfect. I perfect the power I have to govern my thoughts. I am imperfect, and that is perfect. Wabi sabi; the beauty of imperfections makes me interesting. I am genuine; real. I love the uniquenes of my perfectly imperfect imperfections. I AM PERFECT.

I AM STRONG. I am capable to taking care of my self; of giving myself liberty and doing the work to get recognition for creative expression. I am strong. I am a strong creator, creating first with my imagination and emotions, and then on paper, with canvas, with beads, with words, and with my clients. I am physically strong. I have stamina. I have more staying power and focus than the Energizer Bunny. The more I “Do it now” the stronger I get. The more I meditate and visualize, the stronger I become. The stronger I become myself, the stronger I am for others. I take a stand. I always speak up. I always tell the truth. The Divine continues to remove all shortcomings from me, and fills me with vigor and vitality. I have a will of steel. I AM STRONG.

I AM POWERFUL. I can wake up when my alarm goes off and determine how my day will unfold. I have creative power and use it on behalf of my own good, and for the good of humanity. I have mental, physical, spiritual, creative, emotional power, and the power of my virtues. My “yes” means yes and my “no” means no. Nobody can usurp my power. Like Victor Frankl, my happiness is not dependent on any outside circumstances. I am the Magician Archetype. I am visionary. I make things happen for myself, for my family, for my friends, for my clients and for the world. I AM POWERFUL.

I AM LOVING. I love all kinds of people and I love life. I adore myself. I write myself love poems. I wake up in the morning and drink a full glass of water knowing it is a love potion from the Universe. I realize my dependency on a God of love who knew exactly what would sustain human life and matched us perfectly to our environment. I love the way I look, the fineness of my hair, the brown flecks in my deep blue irises, the way I think, my graceful mannerisms, the way I dance, the way I speak, the way I dress, the way my right eyebrow raises higher than my left eyebrow when I smile. I love my wrinkles, the way I laugh and my heart of gold. I love myself for all my wins and for all the times I’ve overcome adversity and turned it into gold. I love that some of my history has been torrid; for I am kind to others, give them hope, share their tears and diminish their fears. I love people warmly and affectionately. I AM LOVING.

I AM HARMONIOUS. I get along well with others. I seek alignment with my soul’s purpose. I look for what is out of integrity and bring it into harmony. I avoid discord. I lover classical music more than jazz. I hear the harmony of the spheres in nature and in my soul. I harmonize my will with Spirit and Universal Law. I was born to collaborate. I create harmony and beauty in my environment. I seek to maximize. I hold a vision of a world where people are in harmony with their talents, with themselves and with others; and gain conscious understanding of universal laws. I cooperate with what is good. I create order out of chaos. I am at peace with myself, others and with my past. I AM HARMONIOUS.

Because I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving and harmonious, I AM HAPPY. I laugh a lot. I find amusement in every day things. I try not to take myself too seriously. I exercise my creativity through humor. I feel good about my life, about my DMP, and about the support I receive from the Master Key Experience material, staff and my mastermind groups. I am grateful to be alive. There are so many things to be happy about: healthy food in the refrigerator, supportive friends, useful and challenging work, the beauty of nature, GiGi the cat, my amazing son and daughter-in-law, my brother who keeps me laughing and also on my mental diet, my life-filled grandchildren, knowing that we are here to enjoy life and that I’m doing just that. I AM HAPPY.

“With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful.
Strive to be happy.”

~ Excerpt from Deseridata

 

My Humming Cousin – Week 12

IMMERSION THERAPY TREATMENT

My favorite cousin, I’ll call her Mary, came to stay with me for ten days a couple of weeks ago. In addition to her presence and companionship, I also received Mental Diet Immersion  Therapy treatment. You see, Mary hums about 45 minutes of her every waking hour. Unless she and I are talking, in which case, she talks for 40 minutes and hums for 15, and I speak for 10 minutes .

As a baseline, I should tell you that I adore silence. I love to chat, too, but when I’m by myself, I don’t watch TV, or listen to music or the radio all the time. I like to listen to music when I’m doing things around the house, like cleaning or organizing, but I don’t need a lot of background noise. Don’t get me wrong. I can hum as good as the rest of them. But my humming usually has some variety to it. It’s an actual tune without the words. Humming can be a happy or soothing noise, like listening to the pitter patter of rain on the rooftop, or a cat purring. But unable to escape from the constant, Hmmm, hmmm, hmmm, it becames a major challenge to my peace of mind and commitment to the 7 Day Mental Diet (which we all know is a repeatable practice for governing our thoughts that lasts much longer than a week). That seven second allowance for substituting positive thoughts is really a diet saver, right?

MENTAL DIET SCENARIO

“She’s humming again. It’s driving me f_ _ _ _ _ g crazy!” “Oops. Better start counting: 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7.” “Isn’t it lovely that Mary’s making dinner for us? She’s so thoughtful. I’m so glad she’s here!”

“OMG, I can’t take one more second of listening to the same three chords over and over again!” “Oops. Start counting: 1, 2, 3 (this time I catch myself by #4).” “I greet my cousin and her (incessant) humming with love in my heart.”

“D_ _n. I can even hear her humming through the kitchen wall when I’m out working on the garden!” “Oh oh. Time to shift my thoughts: 1, 2, 3…” “She really is delightful. I’m so lucky to have a cousin who is like a sister to me!”

And so it went for ten days. Not to mention that Mary also talks a lot when she’s not humming. “How many times do I need to listen to her tell me about how she cooks boiled eggs?” “Don’t give up your mental diet. 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7.” “Wow, she sure knows how to cook a spectacular egg!”

THE PARTING HUM

Last Tuesday, when our time together was over, a friend drove Mary and I to the airport in Fort Myers, Florida. We got out of the car and he helped get our suitcases out of the trunk. Mary hummed as she grabbed the handle of hers. “Hmmm, hmmm. hmmm. Hmmm, hmmm, hmmm.” As we parted ways, she flying off to a different country, I thought of the person sitting next to her on her flight. How would they deal with her humming for five or six hours? And I felt grateful for the Master Key tool of the mental diet, and also for my cousin.

She is still my favorite cousin. I recalled the times we sat together on the couch as children, opening up Christmas gifts, playing in the rooster barn, and training her pet crow. I also thought about the time she visited Minneapolis and I gave and videotaped a demonstration of my new juicer. I thought of how close our mothers were before her mom passed on. And I felt like the luckiest person on earth to have a humming cousin.

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Copyright ©, 2007 (2018), Tha Maaeng, Collage by Val Olson (Alternative title: “Your Humming Turns My Thoughts into Happy Whisperings of Well Wishes.”)

200 Million Termite Mounds Found in Brazil – Week 11

BREAKING NEWS!

Researchers have discovered a gigantic complex of 200 million termite mounds in northeastern Brazil, which may be up to 4,000 years old and covers an area about the size of Great Britain. “These mounds were formed by a single termite species that excavated a massive network of tunnels to allow them to access dead leaves to eat safely and directly from the forest floor,” – Eurek Alert, Nov 19, 2018

TOGETHER WE (AND TERMITES) ARE UNSTOPPABLE!

If termites can create 200 million mounds the size of Great Britain in 4000 years, imagine what we can do over time, one step at a time, by applying the MKE exercises, univeral laws and principles!

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Credit, Eurek Alert

Here are some of the things I’m thrilled about manifesting with the support of MKMMA, my mastermind group (My DMP in sections) and a myself, the guardian of the gate who is learning to control the mechanism of my mind:

  1. Laugh all the time. Yes!
  2. Enjoy amazing health, wealth and loving relationships. Yes!
  3. Pursue my own interests and preferences. Yes!
  4. Be free to spend time with my family and be of service as I choose. Yes!
  5. Luxuriate daily in my top six nurturing activities. Yes!
  6. Be in bed by 9:30 pm for my MKE study hour. Yes!
  7. Be honest with myself and realistic about what I can do. Yes!
  8. Do it now. Yes!
  9. Connect with God via sits, nature, journaling and my dreams. Yes!
  10. Have my creative talent recognized by frirends, colleagues and in the media world-wide. Yes!
  11. Meet with my friend Paula to write once a week. Yes!
  12. Have a podcast with my friend Paula. Yes!
  13.  Write 3 best-selling books.
  14. Recieve a book award.
  15. Me a prolific author-artist-teacher.
  16. Earn $30K from my art and book sales annually.
  17. Have a multi-million dollar company before 2030 that transforms hundreds of thousands of women entrepeneurs
  18. Create on online course that makes $2K month before April 2019
  19.  Be a TED-X Minneapolis speaker before 2022.
  20.  Have a licensing program
  21. Own a home in Naples, FL before 2019.
  22. Own a home in Minneapolis, MN as per arrangements. Yes!
  23. Relish diverse, accomplished friends and mentors world-wide. Yes!
  24. Travel internationally once a year and in North America three times a year. Yes!
  25. Visit Marrakech, Morrocco before end of 2019. Yes!
  26. See the aurora borealis in Norway as an artist-in-residence for one week  before the end of 2019. Yes!
  27. Be athletic, physically active and vibrant. Yes!
  28. Be always true to myself. Yes!
  29. Always keep my promises. Yes!
  30.  Keep daily contact with my MKE MM subgroup. Yes!

LIVING IN THE CENTER OF MY DREAM

I’m insanely happy! I’m filled with bliss! I’m joyful! I’m at peace! I’m satisfied with myself! I love people warmly and affectionately! I take full responsibility for the way I respond to people and events! I never stop working on my DMP! I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving, harmonious and happy! I’m grateful! I’m filled with serenity! I’m at ease! I’m hopeful! I’m engaged! I’m inspired! I’m interested! I’m hopeful. I’m living in the center of my dream!

If termites can do great things, so can I! If a group of termites can do greater things than one termite, imagine what you can do as you help others and allow others to help you!

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